Helping a Dying Virgin?
"I love men too much to marry them", Dr. HO Sik Ying sighed at yesterday's lecture of "Love, Marriage and Sex in Modern China". She explained that she didn't want to turn men into boring persons without much passion after marriage, haha.
Here comes another interesting short story she shared. A friend of her got terminal cancer and there's not much time left when they're told so. As a middle aged woman, being single at that time, her friend regretted she had never had sex in her life because of her Christian identity. "I don't want to die as a virgin", she told Dr. Ho. This sentence sticks in Dr. Ho's mind that she wants to help her friend so much. But at the end, she could do nothing. Back to the lecture, she asked the boys if they would help her friend. "No" was the most common answer received as the repliers are also Christians. Then she questioned: lending a helping hand to others is such a glorifying way, especially for Christians, to show your love to others, why don't you guys do so?
Inspiring! I disagree with what she proposed though. Yes, the identity as a Christian is quite a prison to behaviours (to how we think about Christians too), but whether to help Dr. Ho's friend by having sex with her has nothing to do with religion. It's the huge responsibility that matters. What if her friend got pregnant afterwards, even with safe sex? Who would take care of that baby (or un/luckily babies) after she passed away? I don't think the relationship between her and the man that could have sex with her, as well as their love, are good and deep enough for that man to raise the child(ren). Worst of the worst, if she couldn't give birth before she died, wasn't that man the co-killer?
For me, helping others is great unless the act is invasive.
By the way, this is my first time to write that long in English for leisure, hope there's not much wrong with the wording and grammar, haha.
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